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I know I should be finishing up my NYCC Con report and posting it, but I'm not going to right now. I'm too excited!! :D I NEED to post about this, it's IMPORTANT!


I AM PROPOSING MARRIAGE TO JENNIFER LEE ON JANUARY 8TH, 2011!!!



That's right! I'm finally going to make that woman my fiancé! :D My JennJenn([livejournal.com profile] soliloquy) already knows about it, so don't worry about spoiling the surprise. Jenn & I have talked about marriage for a long time, but she's always been very scared about it because of her past experience with her ex-husband. To put it in Jenn's words "After we get married, that's when I get to find out all the lies you've been telling me and your dirty secrets." Thankfully, Jenn already knows all my dirty secrets!

Anyway, about October of this year, Jenn said that she was finally comfortable with getting engaged. :D Yay! Her confidence in wanting to marry me lasted through a few bumps in the road, and so I started trying to think of a memorable way to ask her to be my fiancé, and eventually my wife, for the rest of our lives. :D

I know it's more traditional to keep it a secret, but there are a few reasons I decided to not do it that way 1) this is a LARGE, LIFE-CHANGING decision, and I want to make sure she has some time to think about it and is not broadsided by it and 2) True to my Mikeyesque nature, I am TERRIBLE at keeping secrets, and couples shouldn't keep secrets anyway, in my opinion.

We looked around for a while for engagement rings, and we finally found ones that we liked. (I will post pics of them after I propose to her) The rings didn't cost much (mine was like $20, and Jenn's was like $160) and I know it's more traditional for the engagement ring to be huge and blingy and the wedding ring to be more simple, but I wanted to go the opposite route for many reasons, but mainly these 4: 1) I feel that the wedding is more important than the engagement, and the rings should reflect that, 2) I tend to lose things, and until I get used to the feeling of a ring on my finger, I might misplace my ring, so I'd rather lose a cheap ring than a really spendy one! 3) Then neither of us have to go into debt and 4) We will be wearing our wedding rings for a lot longer time than our engagement rings. When we DO get married, I'm going to get a custom piece done for my Jenn.

My first plan to propose to her was to whisk her away to someplace and not even tell her where we were going. However, I knew that Jenn wanted her ring. (she is still very excited about it, as am I) so, if I wanted to do that, I would have had to have waited until I had saved up all the money myself to pay for the airfare, the hotel, and the surprise that I wanted to take her to. With my meager salary, it would have taken me until July or August of next year to save up that much. I found something I *KNEW* she would highly enjoy, but it only was available to attend until the end of January 2011.

So, I swallowed my pride and told her that I'd like to take her to New York City to propose to her, but that I needed some financial help in order to do so. This was hard for me to do. Thankfully, Jenn took it in stride and agreed to help me pay for the airfare and hotel.

It still bothers me a little that Jenn makes more money than me (and doesn't have a monthly car payment) so she will always be a little better off than me. This means that sometimes I will have to ask for money or financial help from her, which is hard for me and always makes me feel bad. Also, it means that I will many times not be able to pay for the level of luxury that I feel my sweetheart deserves. However, I love my job too much to quit (although I have been keeping my eye out for a better paying job that I would like), so it's an uncomfortableness that I am willing to deal with. I'm just glad I have a partner who is supportive of me and my many money neurosises.

Wow... that was a lot of exposition. Now to the fun stuff you REALLY wanna know! Jenn and I are flying to New York City on Friday the 7th, and we are staying at the Algonquin Hotel! It's an awesome place that has a resident KITTY! :D Yay! Then on Saturday night we are going to Jenn's surprise and I'm going to pop the question! *squeees excitedly* I will try to get someone to take pictures (with my NEW camera that I got for Xmas).

I'm so excited. I love my Jennifer SO much. I just NEEDED to share!!

Date: 2010-12-29 09:48 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] donatelloivey.livejournal.com
Congrats Mica! I'm so happy for the two of you!

Have fun and I wish you both the best in the years to come!

Date: 2010-12-30 03:02 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] micaturtle.livejournal.com
Thanks so much, Ivey! :D I know I'll have fun in NYC :)

Date: 2010-12-29 09:53 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] ethereal-sky.livejournal.com
Omg, congrats! =D

Date: 2010-12-30 03:02 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] micaturtle.livejournal.com
Thanks! :D

Date: 2010-12-29 10:07 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] brightrosefox.livejournal.com
Aww, congratulations! You're going to adore the Algonquin Hotel - it is splendid.

Date: 2010-12-30 03:08 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] micaturtle.livejournal.com
Thanks, Johanna! :) You've stayed at the Algonquin before? Cool! :D Jenn wants to know: Are you allowed to pet the kitty??

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Date: 2010-12-29 11:02 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] ffdemon.livejournal.com
Congratulations to both of you!!!!

Date: 2010-12-30 03:09 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] micaturtle.livejournal.com
Thanks! :D

Date: 2010-12-29 11:41 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] ajara-night.livejournal.com
Awesome! Congrats!

Date: 2010-12-30 03:09 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] micaturtle.livejournal.com
Thanks dudette! :D

Date: 2010-12-29 11:50 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] katt30.livejournal.com
Yeeeeeaaaaaah! Congrats! :D Pictures! Pictures! XD

Date: 2010-12-30 03:17 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] micaturtle.livejournal.com
Thanks! XD
Yes, I will TOTALLY be posting piccys ;D

Date: 2010-12-30 01:05 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] cynlee.livejournal.com
Once it's official, it's no longer "Jenn's money" and "my money" it is "our money". But I understand where you're coming from.

Anyway, happy trip to NYC and I hope the snow is all gone by then (as well as all the peoples living at the airports). Be safe!! :D:D:D:D

Date: 2010-12-30 03:30 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] micaturtle.livejournal.com
Truthfully, NO. That's not how it will work with the money issue. Jenn & I have different money philosophies, so we have decided to keep our monies separate. Plus the fact that her ex-husband screwed her over royally financially (I'm not sure if you've heard the story, but he opened up a ton of credit cards in her name w/o her knowledge & maxxed most of them out, then after he had fled to England the bill collecters showed up & Jenn eventually had to file bankruptcy.) Soooo, you can see why Jenn's a little hesitant with money matters.

I hope that the whole airport fiasco has cleared up in NYC too before next weekend! :-O However, I wouldn't mind it if it snowed while we were in NYC (good fanfic fodder!)

Thanks! :)

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Date: 2010-12-30 01:20 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] pi90katana.livejournal.com
Wow! Congrats, you two! I wish you the best!

Date: 2010-12-30 03:30 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] micaturtle.livejournal.com
Thanks so much, pi! :D

Date: 2010-12-30 03:49 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] micaturtle.livejournal.com
Tahnks jordan! (BTW, dancing Raphy icon is HYPNOTIZINGGGGGGGG ;D)

Date: 2010-12-30 02:02 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] raphemer.livejournal.com
Congrats!!

Date: 2010-12-30 03:51 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] micaturtle.livejournal.com
Thanks Raph! :D

Date: 2010-12-30 02:03 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] lindentreeisle.livejournal.com
Hurray! Have fun, and advance congrats. :)

Date: 2010-12-30 03:54 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] micaturtle.livejournal.com
Thanks so much Bloo! :D I know that we'll have a blast in NYC :D

Date: 2010-12-30 06:10 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] jem0000000.livejournal.com
Congrats! :)

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CONGRATULATIONS!! :D

Date: 2010-12-30 07:36 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] katmiaow.livejournal.com
I am so thrilled for you guys. :)

Be good to her.

By the way, don't feel bad about the finances. Helping each other financially is part of being a couple.

Re: CONGRATULATIONS!! :D

Date: 2010-12-30 04:26 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] micaturtle.livejournal.com
Thanks kat! :)

I will always be VERY good to her, I promise. I know what a sparkling diamond in the rough her beautiful, caring soul is. (and how truely blessed I am to be the one she chooses to share it with)

Thanks for the reassurance about finances too :D

Date: 2010-12-30 05:32 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] wizardelfgirl.livejournal.com
YAY! Congratulations! I wish you the best! It would be folly to think that there will be no obstacles, fights, misunderstandings, etc along the road, but when love is real, all those things become trivialities that can be overcome.

Don't worry so much about the money thing. I'm pretty sure that in 90% of marriages one person always earns more than the other. The important thing is to know how to manage what you have and that you both decide how to do things. Sometimes you'll be able to pay, sometimes Jenn will do it. It's all about sharing and communication. Emphasis on the latter.

I want piccies of rings!

Date: 2010-12-30 08:08 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] micaturtle.livejournal.com
Thanks so much katz! :D

Yes, I agree that it's all about communication. Thanks for the reassurance :)

I will TOTALLY get pictures of the rings up when we get back from NYC :D

Date: 2010-12-30 06:26 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] greenwillow27.livejournal.com
Aw-- congratulations! I am so happy for both of you!

Date: 2010-12-30 08:11 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] micaturtle.livejournal.com
Thanks GW! :D

Date: 2010-12-30 09:20 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] ivy-chan.livejournal.com
Wow, belated, but CONGRATULATIONS!

Date: 2010-12-31 03:24 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] micaturtle.livejournal.com
Thanks! :) But.. WHAT is belated?? o_0?

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Date: 2010-12-30 10:12 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] lady-curmudgeon.livejournal.com
Most excellent news! Congratulations!

Date: 2010-12-31 03:40 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] micaturtle.livejournal.com
Thanks Pam! :D

Date: 2010-12-30 11:50 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] horsetechie.livejournal.com
Nooo don't do it! Marriage is like.. like.. being sentenced to jail for life!!! (is kidding) ^^

Yay! Congrats! I hope that Jenn accepts. :)

Date: 2010-12-31 03:48 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] micaturtle.livejournal.com
Hee hee, yeah it's jail, but with such an adorable cellmate, who am I to complain? ;)

I'm PRETTY SURE she'll accept. *gnaws fingernails* Ack... now I'm all worried again... O_O

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Date: 2010-12-31 04:06 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] robina1984.livejournal.com
Congrats! ^_^

...We will be wearing our wedding rings for a lot longer time than our engagement rings.

Dude, WHAT??? *blinks* I've always heard that you wear the engagement ring either above or below the wedding ring. My stepmom got rings from my dad that were designed to become one ring after the wedding and all. I've never heard of someone not wearing the engagment ring short of them having pawned it (MOM!) to buy stuff (like thier kid a happy meal. Thanks for the guilt trip, Mom... I'm sure she got more than that, but I know she never got the ring back.)

Date: 2011-01-01 02:54 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] soliloquy.livejournal.com
I plan on wearing my engagement ring forever, too. I have to admit I'm a bit confused as to why Mica thinks the engagement ring won't be worn after we're married. Heh. :-)

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Date: 2011-01-01 12:06 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] aussiegirl17.livejournal.com
Oh, congrats to you both! I'm so happy for you guys and wish you all the best! <3 <3

Date: 2011-01-03 04:17 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] micaturtle.livejournal.com
Thanks so much, aussie!! (((ooohh, dancey Leo icon is excited too!! *watches, entranced*))

Date: 2011-01-01 04:34 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] zyber-07.livejournal.com
cool. Glad to see that there are people who don't buy into the De Beers bs. If I ever got married i'd just buy cubic zirconium. People are more important than shiny rocks.

Date: 2011-01-03 04:19 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] micaturtle.livejournal.com
Thanks Clint. Yeah, the person is ALWAYS more important than the shiney bauble. :)

Date: 2011-01-02 04:04 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] midoribari.livejournal.com
Amazing way to start the new year! Congrats to you both! ♥

Date: 2011-01-03 04:20 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] micaturtle.livejournal.com
Totally! XD Thanks!! :)

Date: 2011-01-02 04:06 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] lady-ganesh.livejournal.com
♥!!!!

That's so awesome!

Date: 2011-01-03 04:22 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] micaturtle.livejournal.com
Thanks so much phish! :D

Yeah, ♥ is awesome!! XD

Date: 2011-01-13 12:15 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] zyber-07.livejournal.com
oh, and a prenuptial is also a great idea for both parties getting married

You should really consider looking into it

Date: 2011-01-13 03:35 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] micaturtle.livejournal.com
Well, we will deal with that when it gets closer to when we can LEGALLY get married in South Dakota :p blech. Stoopid laws.

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