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I am still mulling over the issues in my previous entry, and I just wanted to THANK all the cool people on my f-list who replied and gave me VERY good advice

I am going to make a list of questions/life goals like GW (and a few others) suggested.

HOWEVER I just want to make it clear (to others and to myself)that if Jenn and I have a disagreement on one or more of the questions/issues, that does NOT mean we are incompatible and should break up! It just means we need some more time to live with each other and adjust to the other person's habits before we decide to marry. I know right now, I'm leaning heavily towards just waiting. Maybe when Jenn and I reach our 5 year anniversary then I will re-visit this issue. hmmm.

Also, a personal note to myself: Do not rush into this just because Iowa changed the law and might change it back. You are not ready to get married until your answer to this question "Would I still want to get married to Jenn if it was illegal?" is yes.

Nyar indeed. ;)

EDIT: I still no has scanned in my TMNT-U submission. Bad Lazy mica. No cookie fer U!

Date: 2009-04-14 10:59 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] moronqueen.livejournal.com
I just want to make it clear (to others and to myself)that if Jenn and I have a disagreement on one or more of the questions/issues, that does NOT mean we are incompatible and should break up! It just means we need some more time to live with each other and adjust to the other person's habits before we decide to marry.

Smart lady!! That's totally the way to go. :)

Date: 2009-04-14 11:26 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] aussiegirl17.livejournal.com
I think making the list is a great idea--and I don't think a "disagreement" is a deal-breaker. Lots of couples (married or otherwise) disagree on things, but it doesn't mean they aren't compatiable, like you said. ;D

Date: 2009-04-15 08:55 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] jem0000000.livejournal.com
You may find, over time, that your life goals change. When my boyfriend and I graduated college, he wanted kids and I didn't. Now we're both to the "meh, whatever" middle stage - him, because he went to go help his sis with her kid when his daycare folded unexpectedly (that kid is a handful! But cute, and really a pretty cool kid), and me because I've gotten more used to the idea of responsibility (not that I'm much better at it). It was never a make-it-or-break-it issue for us like it is for some, but it's still nice that even being in different states we're still kinda growing. ^_^

Anyway, you might find that as you get older and your goals change you grow closer together.

Oh! And I will respond to your comment on your last entry - but *after* the taxes are mailed. ;P

Date: 2009-04-16 07:03 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] reijiro75.livejournal.com
HOWEVER I just want to make it clear (to others and to myself)that if Jenn and I have a disagreement on one or more of the questions/issues, that does NOT mean we are incompatible and should break up!

Word!

You are not ready to get married until your answer to this question "Would I still want to get married to Jenn if it was illegal?" is yes.

And WORD!!!

I wish the best of luck to both of you, however you decide to define and celebrate your relationship. It's a thing of beauty as it is.

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